Saturday, May 02, 2009
A Proverbs 7 lesson learned
Ya know....It was nice to have been so naive in my 20's...because the lesson Solomon emparts through his words in Proverbs 7 would be a good one for me if I had realized how an "immoral woman" was trying to do to me one night in the 90's.
Her name was Denice(spelled that way...but "Denise")...so, of course...call her "Deh-Neye-s"!(you are nice!)...She was a nurse at St. Mary's Hospital that my best friend at the time's wife worked with and hooked me up with on a blind date. We went to see "Rocketman" with Harland Williams...and I held her hand. Living in Preston at the time...we talked on the phone...and one day/date...I got a phone call from her asking If I wanted to come over and watch "ER" with her(a very big Television program at that time, to be sure)...so we went and did a little grocery shopping as well...got to her apartment...and started watching. Looking back on it...I should have really noticed how different she was probably acting...I mean...we weren't "cuddling" or anything....but she was making some pretty good efforts to look at me when "pivotal scenes" broke out during the show...and during commercials...would have this smile....
Anyways....the show ended...she shut off the TV...and offered to give me a look about the apartment. As we got into her bedroom, I remember some picture she had on the wall, and her grabbing my hand and looking towards the bed...then she put her head by my shoulder and smiled...and I remember going back out to the living room. I would say a good 10 minutes had passed with the conversation and "looking at the apartment" and walking and such. She turned me towards her and holding onto both of my hands so that our hands were in front of each other...said the words that TOTALLY took me off guard. "John, you're a NICE GUY(I always hate it when women include that...it just drives the knife deeper, IMO)...but I hope you understand I am not looking for a relationship right now...just a friend." I have analyzed and analyzed that night in my head over and over again...and can only come to the conclusion that since A. We had been holding hands that she obviously wanted to figure something out B. Wanted to go out on the "blind date" with me in the first place to meet someone BEFORE any of the hand holding and C. Everything I can dig out of my memory about walking through her bedroom and her actions screams "one night stand" to me...
That she WAS seducing me...that I WAS just being set up as an "Ox going to the slaughter"...
Well, I cried and cried that night about it...and am still amazed to this day that I followed through with the "final date" I had planned with her and her husband/wife friends to a rodeo I had gotten tickets for at the radio station...(and boy, what a butthole I must have seemed like at THAT date!)...But you know what? It was God's way of imparting the lessons and warnings of Proverbs 7 without me even knowing it at the time....and I will never thank God enough for it!
Her name was Denice(spelled that way...but "Denise")...so, of course...call her "Deh-Neye-s"!(you are nice!)...She was a nurse at St. Mary's Hospital that my best friend at the time's wife worked with and hooked me up with on a blind date. We went to see "Rocketman" with Harland Williams...and I held her hand. Living in Preston at the time...we talked on the phone...and one day/date...I got a phone call from her asking If I wanted to come over and watch "ER" with her(a very big Television program at that time, to be sure)...so we went and did a little grocery shopping as well...got to her apartment...and started watching. Looking back on it...I should have really noticed how different she was probably acting...I mean...we weren't "cuddling" or anything....but she was making some pretty good efforts to look at me when "pivotal scenes" broke out during the show...and during commercials...would have this smile....
Anyways....the show ended...she shut off the TV...and offered to give me a look about the apartment. As we got into her bedroom, I remember some picture she had on the wall, and her grabbing my hand and looking towards the bed...then she put her head by my shoulder and smiled...and I remember going back out to the living room. I would say a good 10 minutes had passed with the conversation and "looking at the apartment" and walking and such. She turned me towards her and holding onto both of my hands so that our hands were in front of each other...said the words that TOTALLY took me off guard. "John, you're a NICE GUY(I always hate it when women include that...it just drives the knife deeper, IMO)...but I hope you understand I am not looking for a relationship right now...just a friend." I have analyzed and analyzed that night in my head over and over again...and can only come to the conclusion that since A. We had been holding hands that she obviously wanted to figure something out B. Wanted to go out on the "blind date" with me in the first place to meet someone BEFORE any of the hand holding and C. Everything I can dig out of my memory about walking through her bedroom and her actions screams "one night stand" to me...
That she WAS seducing me...that I WAS just being set up as an "Ox going to the slaughter"...
Well, I cried and cried that night about it...and am still amazed to this day that I followed through with the "final date" I had planned with her and her husband/wife friends to a rodeo I had gotten tickets for at the radio station...(and boy, what a butthole I must have seemed like at THAT date!)...But you know what? It was God's way of imparting the lessons and warnings of Proverbs 7 without me even knowing it at the time....and I will never thank God enough for it!
